Stuck Writing Your Own wedding venues hire Vows? Start With This Guide!
If you’re thinking about writing your own wedding venues hire vows, you’re probably feeling a range of things. Excitement over all the heartfelt emotions you’ll get to express towards your SO in front of all your loved ones… Worry that you might not say all that you want to say. Anxiousness over speaking before a large number of people. (This must have been the kind of pressure Freddie Mercury was talking about!)
But trust us, you can scale ANY mountain. And this one is backed by some TLC… plus, in today’s case, some advice from the experts! So buckle up and settle in because today we’re joined by Katelyn Stanis of Wedding Words who is serving up her top 5 tips for writing personalized wedding vows that will have everyone a puddle in the best kind of way!
Photo by Be Light Photography from this coastal Oregon wedding inspiration
So let’s hear from Katelyn below, shall we?
“How long have you been staring at that flickering cursor on your computer? Blank paper. Too many emotions to articulate. As if wedding planning was not stressful enough, now you have to write personalized wedding vow that will somehow do justice to how you feel. Plus, you have to be emotionally prepared to recite those vows in front of everyone you know? No pressure, right?
Breathe. I’ve got you covered. As a professional wedding vow and toast writer and the creator of Wedding Words, I work with frazzled couples to turn their stressed out worries into eloquent love notes that they’re excited to publically recite come the big day.
I’m here to share my insider tips with you so you too can feel prepared, poised, and ready to write vows that will impress your fiancé and all of your guests.
Photo by Serena Genovese Photography from this industrial same-sex wedding inspiration
Step 1: Brainstorm Vow Material
Most brides and grooms sit down to write their vows and they’re instantly plagued with writer’s block. Don’t expect writing to be your first step. First, you need to do some wedding venues hire pre-work to get you prepared for the writing part. I recommend a brainstorming exercise. Dedicate 15 to 30 minutes to writing down any idea, memory, or feeling that comes to mind when you think of your fiancé and your future marriage. Don’t judge what you write down. It’s a brainstorm so any thought you have is a good one. Another way to gather material for your vows is to answer some writing prompts. Here are a few of my favorite vow writing prompts to get you started. Write down your answers to these questions to create more vow material.
- Why are you choosing to marry this person? How is your fiancé different than anyone else you’ve dated?
- How does your fiancé show you love? How do they make you feel special?
- What has changed about you since you two have been together?
Photo by Wild Whim from this bougainvillea-filled wedding
Step 2: Identify Themes
Now that you’ve created a list of ideas for your vows, it’s time to identify themes. A theme is a general topic that stands out from your notes. For example, you may start to notice that many of your notes talk about your partner’s sense of humor or the strong communication you two have. These are themes and you can use them to organize your vows. You may start by describing why you love how kind and thoughtful they are. Then you can tie that concept into why you know they’ll be a strong partner as your husband or wife. Themes are useful because they not only organize your thoughts but they also help to drive your vows forward.
Photo by Sophie Epton from this sunrise elopement
Step 3: Write the First Draft
You have material and have started to organize your thoughts. Now it’s time to actually start writing your vows.
Here’s a vow writing outline I recommend couples follow as a way to structure their vows:
- Address your partner and detail out how you feel now that you’re about to get married
- Communicate what your partner means to you
- Communicate what you appreciate about your relationship
- Make specific promises
- Describe how you envision your marriage
- Close with a line about how you love them
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Step 4: Edit Your Vows
Any good piece of writing needs to be edited. After you’ve written the first draft of your wedding vows, reread them. Is there anything you need to expand on with more detail? Is there anything you can trim down and get more to the point? Do you say the same thing in two different sections? When you make your vows more concise and articulate, you’ll have greater impact in communicating how you feel.
Photo by Allen Tsai from this fine art elopement inspiration
Step 5: Practice Reciting Your Vows
Writing your wedding vows is only half the battle. Next comes public speaking panic! Practice reading your wedding vows out loud three to five times before your wedding day. Rehearse in front of a mirror or to a friend who you can trust to provide constructive feedback. You can also record yourself using your phone.
While it may feel a bit awkward and uncomfortable, this process will help to ensure that you’re poised and polished for the wedding ceremony. Here are the most popular public speaking tips I always share with clients:
- Speak louder and more slowly than you think you need to
- Make sure the venue has a microphone for you to use
- Print your vows or write them on paper and bring multiple copies with you. Do not read your vows off of your phone or tablet. The light will cause your face to be discolored in photographs and video.
- When you start to feel like you wedding venues hire may get too emotional, take a deep breath and give yourself a moment. Remember why you’re doing this and allow that to motivate you to make it through reading your vows without going into the ugly cry!
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Are you still struggling to write your wedding vows?
Vow writing can be one of the most daunting wedding planning tasks but it should also be one of the most fulfilling. Don’t let stress get in the way of delivering wedding venues hire beautiful wedding vows. At Wedding Words, a vow and toast writing service, we’ll remove your worry and deliver customized wedding vows that will capture exactly how you feel.”
Photo by Menary Weddings from this gilded Arlington Hall wedding
Okay that outline for writing your vows in Step #3 is a serious GOLDMINE of information, am I right? We love the way personalized vows level up on sentiment during the ceremony, and by now, you should be well equipped to express yourself in the best kind of way. For further advice in this arena and even for your MOH or BM who might be needing some advice to kickstart their speeches, look to Katelyn of Wedding Words for guiding light. It’s easy, breezy, beautiful from here!
